Intensive Sessions

When should you do these sessions?

This is a relationship rescue program for a marriage in turmoil and is designed to stop marriage breakdown. By the time you get to this stage you are tired of trying to work things out. You don’t feel that your husband or wife is listening to what you are trying to say. In fact you may have said it so often that you feel like giving up.

The Relationship Intensive Sessions are designed for couples whose marriage is characterized by ongoing conflict, major trust issues or for those couples who can literally see that separation is looming on the horizon. This has usually been going on for a while and love seems to have been forgotten.

It’s for couples who see no end in sight to their conflict and have become embroiled in their differences. When separation is no longer a threat, rather it is starting to feel like an option, you have hit a real danger point.

Couples in crisis are feeling so hurt that they put greater effort into arguing the rightness of their position rather than trying to understanding their wife’s or husband’s experience or view. An outcome of this is that the couple never resolve anything. A marriage in this type of crisis requires a concentrated effort to prevent its breakdown.

Can the Relationship Intensive help me?

With two Intensives, each person gains greater experience and understanding of the others’ concerns, regardless of whether you agree on the issues, as well as gaining insight into your own thoughts, feelings and position.

The process helps couples to move from a place of conflict to a place of understanding, reconnection and togetherness.

Through talking about past “cold” issues and current “hot” conflicts, each person is given the opportunity to discuss what is important to them. This conversation is not distracted by the intensity of emotions and the provocative language often used by couples engaged in ongoing conflict.

Figuring out all of the elements, factors and negative effects on a marriage characterized by conflict is a daunting task, but the potential pay off for success, as a couple, is significant.

Couples will gain greater skills

Problem solving techniques and reflective thinking

The ability to listen without being defensive

The skill of discussing problems without blaming

How to get your point across without being disrespectful

Learn how to recognize and vocalize emotional needs

How to understand each others experience and view of the issues

Develop the skills to simultaneously confront and support each other

Gain greater understanding of the ‘underlying problems’ and apply appropriate solutions

Develop skills to prevent unhelpful defences like ‘stonewalling’ infecting the marriage

How long are the sessions?

1. Each Relationship Intensive Session is three hours
2. They run over two consecutive days
3. Are available weekdays and weekends

Please note these are currently only conducted in Malvern East or North Fitzroy.